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It’s the end of another year. Traditionally this is the time that you reevaluate your life and work out how you are going to completely reinvent yourself. But is it really realistic or appropriate to think New Year, new YOU?
New Year, New You?
Magazines, Mainstream media, and social media may be brimming to capacity with ways to change your life in the new year. Urging you to overhaul your diet, exercise and lifestyle. Mainly by buying the latest fad product, or detox therapy.
And I totally understand. After Christmas, the excesses of food, alcohol and general inactivity do prompt us to look at the last few weeks and realise that we need to cut back.
But it is certainly not realistic to make all these resolutions. Do we ever stick to them? I’ll admit that I never do. And after giving up (usually around mid January) it usually ends up with me feeling even more worthless. More overwhelmed that I couldn’t even stick to it for that long. And so the cycle of self hate begins again.
I am not totally anti change. My main issue is my weight. I am going to try to lose weight in the new year, and for good this time.
- I’ve made my lists of reasons why I need to do this and I’m placing it somewhere I can see it.
- I’m going to get out a motivation dress, one that is a couple of sizes too small, that I really want to get into.
But I also realise that I still have anxiety issues, and do intend to pay more attention to those. Mainly by decluttering my life. Little by little. Always a work in progress. Find out how I will be doing this.
Maybe this new year is time to understand your feelings and emotions behind some of the choices you have made. Only by understanding ourselves do we get to work out our weaknesses and build upon our strengths.
Focussing more on being happier about what we have, than looking at what we don’t have. Yes it is good to aspire, and we should keep working at it, but not to the detriment of our mental health. Not to the point that it overwhelms us with sadness and regret.
So most of all, maybe this new year is time for a new you, but only one change is needed. Changing yourself to be more accepting of the old you. Stop feeling ashamed of what has gone before and start making smaller bite size changes. If you want to change then great, but no beating yourself up if it goes wrong. Just climb back on that horse and keep on going.
Happy New Year, new you. Thank you for reading and supporting my blog this year, and here’s to the next year being our best year yet!
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An interesting take on New Year’s Resolutions which makes sense – good luck! #ablogginggoodtime
Thank you!
I don’t do new year resolutions but I do love a good clear out and it helps my anxiety X #ablogginggoodtime
Totally helps my anxiety too, as long as I don’t get too overwhelmed with starting. Which is where little by little comes into play.
This all makes a lot of sense to me, trying to let go of the old me, the one who is so hard on myself, says mean things and expects perfection. Looking after my health and especially my mental health this year and beyond is so important if I am to be at peace with who I am. Really great read, thank you for sharing it with #AbloggingGoodTime
I need to remind myself to nourish my own health. Both in the thoughts I give myself (that I would not dream of saying to others) and the food/drink I fill my body with. Time to accept and work with all the good parts!
I think that’s the problem with setting so called ‘New Year resolutions’ you have all the best intentions in the world to stick to them but as you said you run the risk of feeling like you’ve failed if you don’t. I don’t usually make resolutions but I think I’ll be jumping on the band wagon this year, keeping it minimal and realistic and if it don’t quite go to plan it’s not a big deal xx #ablogginggoodtime
Yes, I am certainly not going to set myself up to fail this year. Thank you for reading.
I do find the “new you” concept quite annoying, in truth. It makes it sound so simple, and yet the sustainable change is one that produces only a slightly different version or a slight improvement on the existing you. Too often we see people set too many resolutions that are realistically unattainable, and then beat themselves up when they inevitably fall short. I’m a great advocate of focussing on just a few things every year – who has time to try to change 100 things about themselves anyway? #ablogginggoodtime
Well done on your resolution to lose weight last year Tim. And I totally agree, small changes are far more realistic and attainable. Building on what you have.
I confess to never making resolutions, it makes me irritated when I break them. #DreamTeam
Yes, that is the only problem with a standard resolution. Just be happier with who we are.
You have a great point and make total sense. I hope 2019 is good for us all, in so many ways! xoxo #ablogginggoodtime xoxo
Thank you Lisa. Have a really Happy New Year!
Happy New Year to you and thanks for being part of the #DreamTeam in 2018. We hope to see you in 2019 too xx #DreamTeam